Birthing the Vision: How Queen Mindset Leadership 👑 Was Conceived Through Healing

 “Rarely, if ever, are any of us healed in isolation. Healing is an act of communion.”— Bell Hooks

When I first embarked on my healing journey, I didn't think I had much to heal from. I recognized the unspoken grief of losing my father at the age of 20, compounded by years of separation.

My emigration journey to America at age 9, marked by a forced deportation due to overstaying my visitor's visa, began a lifelong separation between my father and me.

But it was only when I reached a point where I could no longer trust any men that I decided to seek therapy. What began as couples therapy with my then-boyfriend transformed into a personal exploration where I finally created space to express my life and desires without judgment.

For the first time, I began to learn who I truly was.

From Personal Pain to Collective Power

Fast forward three years, and what started as tentative steps into therapy turned into a full-fledged healing marathon. During this time, I devoured over 250 books spanning spirituality, trauma, and even astrophysics, all in pursuit of making peace with my father's life, death, and my own.

This profound self-excavation led to radical changes in my life, including setting boundaries in my friendships and at work. I was beginning to value myself for the first time.

Ultimately, I came to know myself so thoroughly that I made a life-altering decision: to get my tubes tied, even without ever having been pregnant.

This choice liberated me, allowing me to trust myself and my desires while daring to take the risk of losing out on love (and even friendships) by adopting a radically non-traditional approach to womanhood.

The Heartbreak That Cracked Me Open

Then came the greatest heartbreak of my life and the awakening to the power of the chakras.

My biggest fear in deciding to tie my tubes was missing out on love. I had faced significant rejection in dating—many men I attracted wanted a partner who would get married and have at least one child.

I didn’t want to spend my life alone, a fear that had shadowed both sides of my family. An old flame, with whom timing had never aligned, resurfaced, and we decided to give dating another shot.

Initially, I shared my decision to get sterilized, which shocked him, as he had not been in contact during that time. Though he wanted to date me, he wasn't ready to let go of his dreams of fatherhood.

After a short but intense month, he broke up with me, leaving me engulfed in one of the deepest senses of self-rejection I had ever felt.

All the tools I had used previously to heal my earlier wounds—reading, journaling, therapy, mindful walks—seemed futile in this moment of despair.

So, I embarked on a mission to discover the power of the feminine beyond motherhood and wifedom.

The Awakening: Tapping into Feminine Power

What followed was a whirlwind experience. I began by reading and studying books written by women about women, diving into their narratives and wisdom. Each month, I committed to reading six books, each focused on a specific chakra, as a means to understand how I could embody the healing associated with them.

I practiced affirmations, immersed myself in color therapy, and journaled, but the reading took my journey to new heights. To give you a taste, here are the books that I started with:

1. The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities by Dossie Easton
2. The Rise: Creativity, the Gift of Failure, and the Search for Mastery by Sarah Lewis
3. Untamed by Glennon Doyle
4. All Along You Were Blooming: Thoughts for Boundless Living by Morgan Harper Nichols
5. The Holy Wild: A Heathen Bible for the Untamed Woman by Danielle Dulsky
6. Las Mamis by Esmeralda Santiago

Harnessing Feminine and Masculine Energies in Leadership

Simultaneously, I pursued my coaching certification, which emphasized the balance of feminine and masculine energies. I learned to harness our intuitive powers and use breathwork to guide ourselves and our clients back to their true selves.

At work, I co-led the most immersive leadership study I had ever engaged in, analyzing thousands of data points gathered from surveys, focus groups, and interviews about what leadership looks like and what qualities are essential for success in the evolving workplace.

The feedback resonated with the feminine traits I was learning about in my coaching program—attributes like emotional intelligence, compassion, listening, creativity, and empathy. Yet, curiously, no one was attributing these qualities to the feminine or acknowledging their value.

Community: Where Personal Healing Meets Collective Rising

In the process, I realized the significance of community in my healing. I had done most of my healing on my own, but now I was craving people in a post-pandemic world.

It was scary at first, but attending community meditations, women's circles, and retreats revealed how much wisdom I had embodied in my search for spirit. Crying in community became a deeply healing experience as I grieved the losses of friends who had taken their own lives and friendships that had faded.

It was profoundly powerful to be witnessed by others holding their grief, creating a shared space for healing.

The Ancestral Connection: Building the Foundation of Leadership

It was within these communities that I began to connect with my ancestors. Tapping into the energy of my grandparents—all of whom had passed before I turned 25—alongside my father and other spiritual guides, I felt an emerging safety in creating something as radical as a leadership theory centered around the experiences of women of color.

I recognized that impostor syndrome often arises from comparison to those traditionally in power—white men—and I sought to turn that notion on its head. My intention was to create a leadership paradigm for us, by us, that others could model.

The Birth of Queen Mindset Leadership

As I coached hundreds of individuals from various organizations, a common theme emerged: self-disconnection. This manifested as a scarcity mindset regarding time (there's never enough), an inability to be still (overbooking), chronic burnout (neglecting self-care), and a lack of personal vision for their futures.

Over the next year, as I established my brand and engaged with the Dallas community, I had countless conversations with mujeres of color—the bridge between Black, Brown, and allies.

Many of these conversations revealed a recurring theme: a struggle to connect with their inherent feminine power in their leadership roles.

This was impacting both their careers and their personal lives. I observed a similar disconnect in men, who often hesitated to embrace a framework centered around the concept of a queen.

Queen Mindset Leadership is inherently anti-patriarchal, as it does not place maleness at the center of living and leading; instead, it centers us—women of color—at the forefront.

Little did I realize that as I navigated these community experiences, I was channeling the energy of a powerful queen who mastered the art of leading with integrated masculine and feminine energies: Queen Hatshepsut.

Your Invitation to Rise

Stay tuned for the next blog and email to learn more about the creation of Queen Mindset Leadership that led to the birth of the Audacity to Queen Leadership Mastermind. 

This program will be a sacred space for ambitious mujeres of color to heal, rise, and lead with the full power of their feminine energy.